Part 6: Transcript of Jeff Dedrick's In Search Of Heroes Interview" by Ralph Zuranski
Ralph Zuranski: Were there things that you changed in yourself that made the difference?
Jeff Dedrick: I think that was one of the forgiveness things that I talked about maybe a couple of times forgiving in my life. I realized at that point that I had to for once, one of the few times ever, to do the forgiveness and change my behavior. Even though I am stubborn, I was smart enough in this case to change my behavior for the long-term good of my kids.
Ralph Zuranski: You know it’s funny. I just went through that same thing with my wife and the last couple of years of her being away from her family and helping take care of my mom and dad in catastrophic illnesses, I just suddenly realized that the major problem was I wasn’t accepting her for who she was and I was trying to get her to conform to who I thought she was.
When I dropped those expectations and just allowed her to be who she was and was willing to forgive her for all of the stuff that I perceived as slights against me it was an amazing relationship changed right on the spot because I changed myself and realized that I could never change her and that she could only change herself.
Jeff Dedrick: That’s just been all recently, right?
Ralph Zuranski: Yeah, recently.
Jeff Dedrick: That’s good to hear.
Ralph Zuranski: I think that’s one of the biggest eye openers that I’ve learned from the Heroes Interviews is that a lot of times if you want to change the world you have to start with yourself. If you are having problems with relationships with others you have to change yourself first.
Jeff Dedrick: I agree.
Ralph Zuranski: That is astounding how fast that works isn’t it?
Jeff Dedrick: Yeah, we agree on a lot of stuff.
Ralph Zuranski: Is there anyone who helped give you the will power to change things in your life for the better? Was there anyone who helped as a counselor for you when you were going through that difficulty with your wife or how did you arrive at the decision you made?
Jeff Dedrick: Oh, boy. I’m one of those guys that my whole family has, like I said, strong, strong loyalty but we keep our emotions kind of in check. The whole idea of when my wife and I were going through problems up to before the divorce proceedings started, I would keep everything to myself including my best friends. My best friends didn’t know and had no clue.
If you were to say my two best friends who I talked to every couple of days, one being my business partner and one being a buddy who was just a couple of hours north of here, they had no clue. So, I did maybe start talking for once. That helps obviously, if you keep everything bottled up.
Ralph Zuranski: Mmhm.
Jeff Dedrick: That’s probably not good. In that case maybe just me talking things out, the whole idea of will power and being able to just do things on my own and how quick I can move on things, that just all, how we talked about my parents and seeing them in action over the years. Again, that’s what I’m trying to do for my daughters.
I want to show them how to do things correctly or at least be in a proper mindset to accept things and to be able to be accountable for their actions and stuff like that. So many people are not accountable. They think it’s everyone else’s fault that things are happening in their life. Everything that I’ve learned I totally owe to my parents.
Ralph Zuranski: How important is it to believe your financial dreams would eventually become to reality?
Jeff Dedrick: I totally believe the philosophy of that T. Harv Ecker’s Millionaire Mindset. If you believe you are going to be successful or rich or if you are going to have a good relationship it’s going to happen because that’s just how it is. If you truly believe then without even thinking you are just going to gravitate towards success.
People that don’t have that mindset that think that other people owe them or that for some reason they deserve not to be happy, well they are going to be searching out situations where they are not going to be happy. Yeah, I totally think you really need to feel that you deserve to be happy successful and financially successful.
Ralph Zuranski: Boy, that is true. Why is it valuable to know how much money you want to have in your bank account and when?
Jeff Dedrick: That’s another one where I might give kind of a weird answer. I probably changed a lot. When I was younger it was all about money and how much I was going to make and stuff. Now, I don’t even pay attention to it. I couldn’t even tell you how much I have in my accounts or what is in my IRA or anything like that.
I am more focused now on being successful and my mind, my mindset of being successful, not so much that corresponding to what you have in your checking account. There are many millionaires’ that are not happy. Their kids are dysfunctional because they are not around. So, to tell you the truth I don’t really pay attention to that.
Ralph Zuranski: It’s funny to think that so many people focus on money and they are missing a lot of things that are more important in life that actually make them better people and also make their life happier than those around them. What is your definition of heroism?
Jeff Dedrick: Oh, boy. That was kind of a tough one too. I definitely can tell you this. Some of the people that right now kids are looking to nowadays that are so called heroes, just because you can throw a basketball through a hoop.
It seems like people gravitate towards the loudest and the guys that are just downright not nice people. I don’t know why that is. Nowadays the loudest reality stars that have done nothing in life other than be on TV and they are loud and obnoxious, they get the most press. They end up getting more deals out of it.
Everyone should start looking at people in their life that are making a difference especially people who are making a difference in their life like teachers. That is something of value, being able to catch a football, in the scheme of life who cares?
Ralph Zuranski: That is so true. Did you ever have a secret hero in your mind that helped you with life’s difficulties, maybe Little Caesar?
Jeff Dedrick: Hey, I was Little Caesar. Yeah, I was dancing around in that costume. Unfortunately people outside in their cars would be going by beeping their horns and flipping me off half the time. I never did. I was able to just draw strength from the real world people around me, my parents, so that I didn’t have to create anything.
I guess some people listening to this aren’t maybe as lucky as I was. It would be important for them to either create something or create a person to strive to be or even to look for someone that is not catching a football, someone to look at in life that they can pattern their life like or at least get some additional training or just be able to talk to some of these real life heroes.
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